How do I know if joining a Dinner Party table is right for me?
You've experienced significant death loss, whether a parent, sibling, partner, child, or close friend and were among the first in your peer community to experience that kind of loss (**while we understand that loss takes many forms (i.e. break ups, divorce) we do not currently have the capacity to meet needs outside of death or physical loss**)
You understand that you're joining a community of mostly 20- and 30-somethings because this is an age group that is typically underserved by the traditional grief community -- too old for youth grief support and too young for traditional grief support groups where attendees are often older.
You have support beyond the Dinner Party and are not relying on TDP as a replacement for therapy
You're looking to build community with others who have experienced significant loss, including a commitment to meet at least quarterly (4x) in the next year
Although grief is an impossible-to-predict rollercoaster and ghosting is very much a part of our current culture, you understand that part of your commitment in joining a TDP table is to be responsive to your volunteer host, who has also experienced significant loss themselves. If you're no longer interested in being part of your table, you understand that it is your responsibility to communicate that openly and transparently with your host and that you will be met with the utmost empathy and understanding in return.
You understand that the Dinner Party will not tolerate racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, classism, ableism, antisemitism, Islamophobia or any other form of discrimination at the table. In joining a table, you are also committing to contributing to an environment that is inclusive for all.
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Thank you so much for applying to join The Dinner Party! Please know that our staff (all of whom have experienced significant loss themselves) read every single application, and appreciate and honor the vulnerability that it takes to fill out a form.
Because we curate each table in our 100+ locations worldwide by hand and want to conduct this process with care, please note that you may not hear from our staff about a "table placement" for anywhere between 1 to 6 weeks as we find a table that's a good fit for you.
We currently take into consideration factors like:
- Geography (where do you live and where are you willing to travel?)
- Who/what/when of your loss
- If there are enough people who have applied to host a table in your city that we have a place to connect you or if we need to recruit more hosts to meet the need
- Passions and interests outside the table
- If you'd like to be connected to one of our new POC, LGBTQ+ or men's-only tables (coming soon)
Why do we take these things into consideration? Because our goal is not just to send you to a one-time event, but to help you find "your" people. People you can build community with over time. People who can be your "loss anchors" when no one else seems to understand. We know this takes more time and goes against our one-click culture, but in the current age of loneliness and isolation, we know that it's worth it.
Also note that depending on your location, we may not be able to offer you a Dinner Party table at this time. Everything we do is in response to demand and over the last few years, we've learned that trying to make a table work when there aren’t enough people invested in a location can leave people feeling more isolated after loss rather than less (which kinda defeats the purpose of Dinner Party-ing, no?).
If we can't match you a table, you will still receive a personalized email from us within the time period above with resources and other ways to be involved!
Thank you again for your interest in The Dinner Party!